How to Deal with Anger & EoE

PhotoHello! It’s me, Danielle, your favorite EoE girl, here again to talk about the journey of living with Eosinophilic Esophagitis and how to get through it. I know I can’t make the pain go completely away, but hopefully I’m able to shed a little bit of light each month and give you some new insights!

Today, I’d really like to talk about how your child deals with his/her symptoms of EoE. There are many different types of people in the world, so it makes sense that there are many different types of emotions. Some people choose to ignore the problem, and pretend that everything is perfect. Some people choose to dwell on the fact that they’ve been diagnosed with EoE and make life miserable for themselves and everyone around them. And some people try to make the best of what’s given to them. I like to think I’m in the last category, but I’ve definitely fallen all over the spectrum from time to time.  It’s encouraging to others to be happy and positive all the time, but in reality, it can be exhausting to be positive 100% of the time.

Sometimes, it’s okay to be angry. And more importantly, it’s okay for your child to be angry. I know this is a difficult topic to talk about, because there’s such a fine line. How angry is too angry? How long are they allowed to be angry before they need to snap out of it?

And let me clarify something, I believe that sad and angry are two different emotions. While sadness is an important component of this, I really want to talk about anger right now. I think that everyone experiences anger, in his or her own way and own time. What matters though, is how you let the anger out. That’s what will make or break you.

I really encourage everyone out there who’s reading this to go find something they’re passionate about, so when (not if) you become angry, you can express it in a way that won’t hurt anyone else.

For me, it is discus. Every time I was angry with the world, and angry with God, and angry with my body, I would go to the discus field. And I would throw, for hours and hours. I would take my anger, and push it out of me.  It was a healthy way to relieve my stress and it was also my way of dealing with my diagnosis.

EoE can make you feel powerless at times. Like, completely powerless. When I was out there, doing something that I loved, it gave me back my sense of worth. It made me feel strong in a time of weakness.

My point is, is that it’s okay to be angry. As long as you deal with your anger in a healthy way, it’s okay. And more importantly, it’s okay for your child to be angry. And, even more importantly, you need to let him be angry. It’s part of dealing with EoE.

I know most of y’all reading this are moms who have young kids with EoE. Your child probably isn’t old enough yet to experience anger. But when they do, encourage them to go find something they’re passionate about, and then tell them to put ALL of their anger into it. I promise you, great things will happen. Because I put all of my anger into something I was passionate about, I broke my school record. I got 3rd place at the state meet. And I competed in the SEC. And so when your child puts their anger into something that they love, and when (not if) they do amazing things with their passion, they will then be more at peace with EoE and understand God’s plan just a little bit more.

That’s all for now!

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